Monday, July 12, 2010
Is it good to be selfish when it comes down to love or should we have the courage to build even from the beginning a relationship based on principles and solid sentiments?
Nowadays, living in a continuous motion, which unwinds with a stunning speed, we have to divide between career, friends, fashionable activities, shopping, entertainment, family... Do we still have time to love? Can we integrate a relationship in the daily life hubbub, being able to sustain it, to feed it with its necessities?
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The speed of the events deployment in our life has a big impact on the sentimental domain. We live everything very intensely, and maybe that's why relationships end rapidily. We break-up easily, because it is much more complicated to try to consolidate. We know that we can always find somebody available.
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But let me ask you a question: how long does it take love in order to evolve from a simple passsion to that special relationship between two persons, that relationship which two human beings have in front of the shrine, being confident that they will never break the vow?
On the one hand, in order to understand the person beside you, to know what she likes, to learn to be there when she needs you, to make together things that will bring you closer... you have to be sentimentally involved. You can't keep distance and simultaneously pretend to receive everything from the other one, until you will realize wether you want him or not.
On the other hand, we use to indulge ourselves in undesirable situations. Very often we don't have the courage to bring it to an end when we see it doesn't work anymore. Or we try to encourage ourselves with principles. Or we think we love the other one, but the only thing we love is the image we want him to have.
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We misspend precious time. We are afraid to involve ourselves profoundly at the beginning and cut down the bearing love. We are afraid to say NO at the end, and try to resurrect the feelings that perished long ago.
Love when you have the chance, without hesitation! Are you afraid to suffer? It is much more painful the suffering of a person that never loved, of the one who is always alone, isolated in his own world. And, very important, be a little selfish too! Give everything, but also take care to request everything! And, when you realize it's not working... just say NO and go on!